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People who come to my club seeking help in finding birth parents or adopted children are never turned away. But, before I help someone I always ask a few questions. The purpose is not to find personal information. It is to be sure that you have given enough thought to what you are doing and why.

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1. How old are you? I normally don't assist young people as they are not ready to handle the emotional roller coaster of searching for bio parents. If the person you are searching for is a child, I will not help you unless that person is an adult. So we will need to converse a little so we can get to know each other before we dig in for the hard work ahead.

2. Who are you looking for? If you say a mom or a dad I will probably tell you that the people who raised you are your Mom and Dad. They gave up part of their life to give you a good start in the world. THEY have earned the right to be your MOM and DAD. If you are looking for parents, you already have them. On the other hand, if you are looking for a person who is biologically connected to you, knows your family history, and might be a friend someday after you get to know them, you are on the right track.

3. What do you expect to get out of the relationship once you find them? If you expect instant magic, think again. This is a person you do not know. A stranger! You do not know their history or anything their life. You need to know what you want from them before you crash into their lives.

4. How far are you willing to go to find the person you are searching for? Hunting down your parents is going to take a lot of work and luck. Myself and people in my club are NOT willing to do your work. What we CAN do is point you in the right direction by showing you resources and search techniques and we have a great cheering section! Nothing is more satisfying than being able to say "I did it myself".

5.What are you going to do if they DON’T want to see you? How will you handle rejection from someone who is your blood? Think hard about picking up the phone and calling someone only to have them say "Please do not call here again, I do not wish to have you in my life." What will you do then?

If you have answered all of these questions and find you are still willing to pursue the task ahead of you, lets talk. You can do one of two things, either email me directly {genzoli@yahoo.com} and we can talk about your individual situation OR you can join my club and post a message there to the entire group. If you do post to our club, please do not post personal information, you need to be safe on line while you are searching.
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